Dealing With Disloyalty


Loyalty
loy·al·ty
ˈloiəltē/
noun
the quality of being loyal to someone or something a strong feeling of support or allegiance

“Where the battle rages, there the loyalty of the soldier is proved.” – Martin Luther

For the Parent::Battle Cry

The last few weeks we’ve talked about what it means to be loyal and how to choose those loyalties wisely. Today’s message is a little bit different. Loyalty and integrity are extremely important, but so is knowing how to handle the unfaithfulness of others. As adults, we’ve all had to deal with disappointments – many of them due to dishonesty or someone’s failure to keep their word. Unfortunately, people aren’t perfect and as a result, these betrayals happen more often than we’d like. While the Warrior Poet cannot change the actions of others, he can choose to rise above the fray! While the Warrior Poet cannot change the actions of others, he can choose to rise above the fray!

For your Son::Call to Arms

As Warrior Poets, we should always strive to be loyal, but how should we react when others don’t show the same commitment? Sometimes people can let us down. Siblings, best friends, peers, or classmates. All have the potential to disappoint us. Because of this, we must know how to respond when someone doesn’t show loyalty. Has anyone ever told you that they would do something, and then not done it? Maybe it was a friend who promised to have your back and didn’t. Maybe it was a classmate who didn’t do their part of a group project and you were left doing it instead.

The first thing to remember when dealing with disloyalty is forgiveness. The first thing to remember when dealing with disloyalty is forgiveness. Everyone makes mistakes, and the Warrior Poet believes in treating people the way he would like to be treated. If you made a mistake, wouldn’t you want to be given a second chance? Holding grudges will only make you bitter. If the person lets you down again, let them know that you are counting on them and politely remind them of their commitment. If they continue to break their promises and show themselves to be disloyal however, you must not allow them to continue taking advantage of you. The Warrior Poet always forgives, but knows to be cautious when dealing with people that can't be trusted. The Warrior Poet always forgives, but knows to be cautious when dealing with people that can't be trusted.

Weekend Activity

At some point this weekend, come up with a couple of scenarios. Discuss with your Warrior Poet how he’d like to respond in each scenario, and contrast it with how he should respond as a Warrior Poet. For instance: “If your classmate doesn’t pull his weight on a class project, how would you handle it? How would a Warrior Poet handle it?”