Failure Is Totally An Option


Temperance tem-per-uh ns/ noun

  1. the act of self-control with your actions and your words 

The Master has failed more times than the Beginner has tried. The Master has failed more times than the Beginner has tried.

For the Parent::Battle Cry

We over-dramatize failure. We think that if we fail, it means we cannot succeed. As if anyone who ever succeeded did so on the first try. From Edison to Tesla, Ford to Jobs, anyone who has ever done anything worthwhile failed and failed miserably. From Edison to Tesla, Ford to Jobs, anyone who's ever done anything worthwhile failed miserably.The difference between giants of innovation and those who aren’t often comes down to whether or not they gave up. The difference between giants of innovation & those who aren’t often comes down to whether or not they gave up. You can fail without succeeding, but it’s not likely you’ll succeed without first failing. The trick to getting past your failure? Don’t place your identity in what you are doing. The trick to getting past your failure? Don’t place your identity in what you are doing. You failed at something, but you are not a failure. Temperance doesn’t allow you to define yourself by your work, good or bad. Once you understand that, failure’s punch gets much weaker. You may go down, but you won’t be out for the count.

For Your Son::Call to Arms

Ask this question: Are you afraid to fail?

You shouldn’t be. Failure is a part of living. If we are to do anything worthwhile in this life, we will at sometime or another, fail. But failing at something doesn’t mean you are a failure. Identify yourself by who you are and what you believe in, not what you do. Identify yourself by who you are and what you believe in, not what you do. When you fail, it just means that what you tried didn’t work. It doesn’t mean that you won’t be able to succeed in the future.

Weekend Activity

Read some stories about great innovators in history. Look specifically for the times when they failed at something. Talk about what it must have felt like and remind your son that failure will happen, but it doesn’t define them.