It’s more loyal to try to keep friends from making bad decisions than it is to just go along with them. Loyalty demands we do whatever we can to keep our friends from doing things that would bring them harm, either now or in the future. True loyalty requires us to tactfully point out where the other person might be wrong.
- the quality of being loyal to someone or something
- a strong feeling of support or allegiance
The people to fear are not those who disagree with you, but those who disagree with you and are too cowardly to let you know. —Napoleon Bonaparte
For the Parent::Battle Cry
Loyalty is not just being supportive, being a “yes” person who just goes along with whatever is said. True loyalty requires us to tactfully point out where the other person might be wrong. Loyalty demands we do whatever we can to keep our friends from doing something that would bring them harm, either now or in the future. This week, you’ll encourage your son to help his friends make the right choices, but to be there for them if they make the wrong ones.
For your Son::Call to Arms
Ask this question: Does being loyal mean you always have to agree with your friend?
Sometimes that means pointing out where they are wrong. You should do this gently, and make sure they know you are doing it to help them. But here’s the thing about loyalty: it also means you help them pick up the pieces when they do make mistakes.
Write down a list of choices you might make. Some of your choices should be good ones, like helping a neighbor or buying a present for a member of your family. Others should be dangerous ones, like stepping in front of a moving bus. Have your son listen to your choices. Whenever you choose a good one, he should stand by you. Whenever you choose a bad one, he should stand in front of you. Discuss how loyalty is both supportive and protective of the people you are loyal to. Let us know how things went in the comments below.