Parenting By Example

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  1. the act of self-control with your actions and your words 

“A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way.” – John Maxwell

For the Parent::Battle Cry

What makes a good parent? As I sit here writing this post in the shadow of Father’s Day yesterday, it’s surprisingly hard to answer. Nobody else and nothing else in your son’s life will have the same degree of impact as you, his Mom or Dad. From birth, he has been studying you. Copying your mannerisms. Mimicking your attitudes. Our kids’ greatest strengths and flaws flow directly from us. If this is the case, don’t we owe it to our sons to lead by example? Of course! THAT is what it means to be a good parent.

A “do as I say, not as I do” approach to leadership is never effective because unless your actions back up your words, your words will always ring hollow. Do you want your Warrior Poet to be brave, loyal, wise and self-controlled? Lead by example. Do you want him to show love to others unconditionally? Let him see you doing it. Do you want to see him grow to be a leader among his peers? Be a leader yourself. Here’s the catch – in order to set a good example, we have to be at the top of our game. And that means exhibiting Temperance. Only through discipline and the self-control of our words and actions can we be the examples that our children need. If we want our kids to “Live Like Heroes”, so must we!

Editor’s Note: In case you haven’t noticed already, this week’s post doesn’t have a “For Your Son” section – that’s because this week is just for you parents! 

Weekend Activity

What are some areas where you may not always set the best example? For instance, maybe you’re not the best at verbally affirming/encouraging people (your son included). Or maybe you have a tendency to procrastinate. None of us are perfect, so there’s always room for improvement. Whatever your weakness is, focus on setting a better example in the coming week!