True Loyalty is Earned


Loyalty

loy·al·ty ˈloiəltē/

noun

How do you show your friends you are loyal to them? Is there a particular action you can do? Or is just being there for them no matter what all you need to do? It is simple to show loyalty to your friends: you show up. 

  1. commitment to a belief and a dedication to people you love
You cannot buy loyalty; you cannot buy the devotion of hearts, minds, and souls. You have to earn these things. —Clarence Francis...you cannot buy the devotion of hearts, minds, & souls. You have to earn these things.—Clarence Francis

For the Parent::Battle Cry

True loyalty is not purchased and it is not sold. It is earned. True loyalty is not purchased & it is not sold. It is earned. Think about your loyalty to your favorite brands. Is it because they are the cheapest? The best? Is it because everyone else uses them? Most likely, it's because they have earned your loyalty by consistently delivering on what they promised and by going above and beyond to make it right when they don’t. It may sound funny, but the kind of loyalty businesses use to get you to buy their products is the same kind of loyalty you need to show people. You need to consistently deliver on your promise to stand by someone, and when you don’t, you need to do whatever it takes to make it right. You need to consistently deliver on your promise to stand by someone... One misstep can cost a business a lot of money, and it could cost you a friend.

For your Son::Call to Arms

Ask this question: How do you show your friends you are loyal to them? How do you show your friends you are loyal to them? It's simple to show loyalty to your friends: you just show up. It's simple to show loyalty to your friends: you just show up. You stand by them time after time. You do what you say you are going to do, and when you don’t, you make it right—simple, but not easy. There will be times when you are tired or scared or you would rather be doing other things. It will be tempting to blow your friend off for something more fun. But loyalty to a friend is a lot more valuable than that. It's something you can’t replace; it's something you can’t buy. It is earned. The great thing about loyalty is that once it's earned, it's very hard to lose.

Weekend Activity

Make a couple of appointments with your son, one for you and one for him. Hold him accountable for keeping his, but miss yours. Make sure it’s not something that will embarrass or hurt him, just something between the two of you. (An example might be promising to go to the movie and then deciding to watch a ballgame.) After you let him down, give him some time. Then ask him how it felt when you didn’t keep your appointment. Tell him to hold onto that, because that's how it feels to let down someone you are loyal to. Then apologize and make up the disappointment. Keep the conversation going on your outing.